The Promise
I will make sure to compliment a person every day.
Impact of the Promise
A simple “I like your outfit” or “good work on that project!” goes a long way – it can make a person’s whole day. Although it may seem very obvious as to why complimenting someone is a nice thing to do, there are many underlying scientific reasons as to why a few words can be so beneficial. A study performed by scientists of the National Institute for Physiological Sciences showed that humans performed better in a task if they had been complimented before doing it. Prior research by this same group of scientists showed that receiving a compliment activated the same part of the brain – the striatum – that’s activated when one receives money. Taking five seconds to compliment someone could provide them with the mental boost necessary to keep moving through life. Giving compliments can be just as beneficial as receiving them. According to Marci Naomi Berger, a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist in San Rafael, California, “being in the habit of giving compliments helps us notice and appreciate what’s good and what we like in those around us.” In other words, those who are looking to compliment people develop a more optimistic outlook on life. So, think about the positive impact that a compliment could make on you right now. Realize that you can make that same impact on others with a few words and a few seconds
Action Items
Do
- Give meaningful, specific compliments
- Ensure that your compliment positively affects the recipient
- Try complimenting strangers
Don’t
- Compliment the same person every day
- Expect something in return for a compliment
- Assume that all people will receive a compliment well
Resources:
- https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/11/121109111517.htm
- https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/why-compliments-make-us-feel-so-good-how-get-better-ncna1062546
Element of Honor
Compassion
Through my actions I seek to alleviate suffering, establish peace, and build happiness with others and in myself. I recognize that the world is in great need. Because of this need, I am needed. My belief in the importance of a promise is strong; however, I know that doing what is right will always be more important than keeping a promise. Commitment holds me accountable to my compassion; it does not blind me of it.
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